‘Tis the season. The season for weddings. I have a lovely collection of invitations at home for upcoming weddings this year. Some are taking place close to home, while others are at least a 6 hour drive away. All of them are family weddings. Coming from a large family means that I shall be receiving invitations for a long time to come. Initially it was cousins’ weddings and now their kids are getting married. The celebrations continue. Family get-togethers abound and and there is always the “OMG I haven’t seen you in forever” which, by the end of the night leads up to, “we MUST stay in touch” phrase. Indubitably, this does not occur, but the desire for it is honest and true. All this brings me to ponder wedding celebrations and what brides (and/or grooms) consider to be most important.
Wiseguy and I had an interesting wedding. It began with the intimate proposal. It was so passionate. We were in the kitchen of our apartment and Wiseguy looked at me and said, “Wanna get married?” My equally romantic reply, “OK.” (See, we are huge romantics aren’t we?) Wiseguy picked the date of the wedding. “How about April 1st?” LOL! (April Fool’s Day!) That would’ve been awesome! So true to our personalities. But then he changed his mind. He pondered and asked, “how about Valentine’s Day?” Now that was sweet. Then he continued his thought: “That way I won’t forget our anniversary and you won’t have to kill me.” I love that man.
We had just over a month to plan our “perfect” wedding. It wasn’t going to be elaborate. In our eyes, the most important thing to us was that the kids were part of our wedding day. Wiseguy actually thought it would be even better if we asked them for their approval before proceeding with any plans. They agreed that our getting married was a fine idea. We were initally just going to hop a plane to Vegas, but not having the kids be part of it was not what we wanted. Family was always very important to us.
I had a wedding gown that had been given to me when my SIL was closing up her wedding gown consignment business. Brand new gown and only 5 years old. Still not too old to be in style. We got Wiseguy into a cool tux with a funky purple, pink vest. (The Princess still remembers the special, pretty dress we bought her for the occasion.) We got married at high noon (shot gun wedding right?) at city hall. Our reception venue…a little odd. I had a friend who was vegetarian and at the time I had no idea what venue would be best, foodwise, so that everyone’s pallets would be happy. Then I had a brilliant idea! I reserved a section at a well known restaurant. The Mandarin…Chinese buffet. Yup, I wandered around the buffet line in my beautiful gown. Did I care? Nope…I was having the time of my life because I was there with my new husband. It was great! Just some family and friends and some great laughs. We had our picture taken by one of the wait staff. It was given to us in a “Happy Birthday” frame. Neat right? Memorable? Absolutely. (I still have that polaroid picture and the frame it came in.)
If I was to do it over again would I change anything? Maybe I would, maybe I wouldn’t. Definitely not your typical style proposal nor wedding, but for me, it was perfect. I have been to extravagant weddings in halls with huge chandeliers and a harpist playing as you entered. The food was gourmet and there was French service for the dinner. There was a 5 piece band playing. I have been to weddings in less extravagant halls. All decorated by the bride and her crew of bridesmaids and ushers. The food was delivered on platters and you served yourself. There was no band, but there was a dj providing the entertainment. I have been to many a wedding and many a different venue. What was the most important part to me about each wedding? I enjoyed myself the most when the bride and groom were enjoying themselves.
Here is a small note I would like to dedicate to future brides and grooms:
Dear brides and grooms. Your wedding day is special. Brides, you will feel like a princess because the man you love is there beside you, waiting to become your husband. As long as your family and friends are with you, you will feel the love and happiness that they are sharing with you that day. You have your bridesmaids and ushers there to help you out and make the day a wonderful occasion for you. Use them. They are a vital part of making your day fantastic. The most important thing about your wedding day is to love every minute of it. Enjoy your day. Laugh a lot. If anything goes wrong…laugh it off. It will make for great stories later. Your wedding day is a one-day spectacular and special event. Make it a memorable one. Love…your future conscience. XOXO