Us seems to be a very short title, but I believe that sometimes less words are more integral in describing a thought than a run on sentence full of adjectives, adverbs, nouns, verbs…and nothingness. This two letter word is so full of meaning and definition. It is a concept and way of life that I am finally beginning to fully understand.
We begin our lives as wonderful, dependent, little bundles of cuteness. Some babies are born into loving families. Others are born into dysfunctional families. In the end, there is a beginning. We emerge and grow and learn. Some lessons are taught to us and others we discover on our own. Life lessons. The world is our educator. In most cases we are taught to find our perfect soul mate so that we can live happily ever after.
Poor girls, we try so hard to find Prince Charming everywhere we look. We can overlook the flaws in order to have someone to hold us and take care of us. Right? Heck no. Nowadays we want the handsome Prince, but he had better know how to wash dishes and do laundry and make dinner. We are very busy women folk. Not to mention adding child bearing and raising that child. Who’s going to do all that?
Fast forward in life…career woman, make dinner, make lunches, attend meetings, get stuck in traffic, driving children to and from school and after school? Dance or karate or baseball or soccer. Grocery shopping, clothes shopping. Hang out with significant other. Who? Oh yeah, I remember you.
I remember when we used to jump into the two door sedan and just go driving. (Can’t do that now because gas prices are so crazy and we have a mini van not a cool sporty vehicle). Remember when we would go out for dinner and just talk about nothing. (Dinner out now means going out when we get a coupon in the mail and then talking about bill payments or house renovations). Remember when it was just the two of us? Us.
I remember the early dating days. Money? We were lucky if we had 40.00 between the two of us. We would talk for hours. We would write little notes and letters to each other. There was no texting or e-mails. It was pen to paper and it was beautiful and thoughtful. Little things were monumental. A cup of coffee, ready-made, and nice and hot when I woke up. Sitting around on the balcony of our rented apartment and just enjoying the view. Beautiful. Calm. Quiet. Some music playing softly in the background. Bliss. Us.
Us then became extended us. Children and elder family. Family obligations. Us went from having no furniture to an apartment overflowing with stuff. Suddenly Us took a back seat. Everyone and everything else was more important. Keeping children happy was number one. There were bills to pay and items to purchase. There were future houses and mortgages. New / used cars to be purchased as old ones fell apart. Schooling and weddings and grandchildren. Work became the most important thing because money is needed to pay for everything. We were ships in the night….literally…since we ended up working different times of the day. What happened to Us? We talked about date night and once a year, for our anniversary, we could count on that, but otherwise, Us became a non-existent thing…until tonight.
Tonight was special. Tonight you created magic. You decided to cook up a beautiful meal. I came home and did not have to prep anything. We sat around and talked. Not about bills. Not about renovations. Not about anything that adults would deem important. We talked about the sky and the perfect weather. We talked about your shopping spree at the grocery store and how meticulous you were in picking what you thought I would enjoy most for dinner. I was your primary concern and nothing else mattered. I want you to know how much I appreciated that and love you for it. My meal was excellent. The flavours were invigorating and the company was my favourite part. We sat outside. Just Us. The two of Us. I realized more than ever tonight that in the end, we are in the “Us” part of our lives. The children are grown and living their own lives. Taking care of elders is no longer part of our responsibility. All we are left with is Us. You and me, as was before, but newly modified. Husband and wife, grandparents, friends and lovers. Another new exciting stage of our lives.
I love you, my other half of “Us”. Thank you for making tonight a special time and a special memory for me. I enjoy being able to date you again. The serenity and peacefulness. The non-drudgery of everyday life. The laughter (including piggy snorts…my specialty). You refocused my perspective and helped me don my rose-coloured glasses that I had misplaced. Living in the pink is a pretty nice place to be.