Mother’s Day. I’m a little late, but just thought I’d share my thoughts and feelings about this day.
Remember, in grade school, when the teacher would have arts and crafts supplies so that we could create wonderful gifts for our mom’s for Mother’s Day? Macaroni art? Tissue paper flowers? Not to mention all the handmade cards (most of the time, the misspelled words were left alone to make it authentic). Those were the cherished gifts for Mom.
As we children grew up, we couldn’t wait to get money and go BUY a real fancy gift for Mom with a real preprinted card to go with it. So proud we were of our purchases. Something had changed. The happy gleam in her eyes of past gifts just didn’t seem to be there. We tried different store-bought gifts every year. We couldn’t figure out what we were doing wrong. Time passed. We gave up on the gifts. We gave up on the cards. I still call her on Mother’s Day and I can hear the joy in her voice. No gift required.
Then I became a stepmom to three wonderful children. I received the homemade gifts and, believe me, nothing could make me feel more warm inside than that. The homemade cards, including the wonderfully misspelled words, were the most beautiful things I had ever received. I remember the dollar store plastic flowers that were given to me. They were so excited with their purchase that they had to explain to me that, “we got you these because they will last forever!” Yup, after 16 years, I still have those plastic pink flowers. The kids don’t remember giving them to me, but that’s ok. I will always remember the joy and pride they had when they were presented to me.
Even now, with everyone’s busy schedules, the kids find time to call or email or text. They find some time to come and hang out. I love all the hugs. I am enamoured with the fragrant flowers. I love the preprinted cards with the personalized essay of love inside them. The older I get, the more the waterworks turn on, but that’s ok. They are tears of love.
It’s really nice now as well because The Artist and The Baker call me mom. Truly special for me, as I never had children of my own but married into the family plan. I love the kids. I love being with them. I love seeing them. I love seeing how well their lives are progressing and how they are excited about all their future plans.
I am proud of all of them. I worry about each of them. I love them all. I think about them everyday. I truly believe that being a Mom is a privilege. It’s earned with lots of love, kindness, and especially hugs.
Thanks for letting me be Mom on Mother’s Day (and every other day).