I remember hearing about people who were trying to “find themselves”. Mostly it was people criticizing other people and I, as a child, did not know what it meant. In our day it meant you were escaping responsibility. Fast forward years later and I finally understand what that means. Some of you may have already done this, purposely or accidentally, but for those of you who have not yet reached the precipice, I shall try to explain this phenomenon.
I do not claim to know the answers. I believe life is a constant journey. There are so many things we experience and live through. Things we thought were super stressful in our teens seemed like blessings in our twenties. Stuff we thought was tough in our twenties became insignificant in our thirties. I am getting closer to my fifties and am appreciating the desire for people to support one another and fight for equality. I watch and summarize it as: One generation wanting peace and love for everyone.
If everyone finally looked around and said, “Hey…you’re ok!” we could all work, live, and be happy together. However, the most important thing is loving yourself. Every religion tells you that and many of us choose to ignore it because it seems selfish. I was raised hearing this: Love your neighbour as yourself. For some reason, most of us, or all of us, missed the memo. Love yourself? YES! It sounds so strange, but once you start living it (yup, through “finding yourself”) it’s amazing how much better all your relationships become after that.
One of the reasons I bring this is up is because I believe in the power of love. I believe in the power of positive thinking. I believe that everything will be good in your life as long as you believe it will be ok. How did I get here? I finally debated about “to be or not to be…” alone. That led me to decide that I needed time to be alone, to “find myself”. Why? I needed to think about what my thoughts were. Negative? Positive? How did I view my surroundings?
I realized that most of my life was about helping others. I needed the approval and praise of others to feel my self-worth. Yup, that’s where the needed “alone time” came in. Spend time with yourself and your thoughts and find out how you feel about yourself and how you can improve on your self-love.
- It’s impossible and I can’t do this!
- It’s too hard!
YOU ARE STRONG! YOU HAVE THE POWER!
VERY, VERY IMPORTANT NOTE: DO NOT LISTEN OR BELIEVE IN WHAT “APPEARS” REAL. WE DO HAVE INNER POWERS AND STRENGTH AS LONG AS WE SAY: “I CAN DO THIS!”
As children we were excited about everything. Dandelions were roses to us! Mud was extravagant! Butterflies were miracles! Sadly, along the way to adulthood, we were told to believe in hard facts, not fiction. This is why I love children. They are still so pure and non-judgemental. They can see the beauty in everyday life. I dare you to try and wake up everyday and say I LOVE MY LIFE! Most often, we DO forget to see all the good we have. We have this idea that we need more “stuff” in order to make us happy. Bigger houses, better cars, expensive clothing, etc.
Have you ever stopped to actually say, “Wow…I actually have so many wonderful things in my life.” No. And why not? I think it’s because once we get something that we believe will make us happier, we realize it didn’t, so then we have to start looking for something else that will make us happy.
Which brings me right back to be being alone or not being alone. If you really love yourself, you can look in a mirror and actually think you are wonderful. If you love yourself then no one can bring you down. That self-love provides such a glorious barrier to all the negative in the world. If someone belittles you (which many workplaces or families do), it won’t matter. If you love yourself, you can actually start loving others. You will see that everyone is here to have fun! It’s not all about work and getting things. It’s about getting excited and trying new stuff. (Like axe throwing…very excited about doing that!) It’s about knowing that you can wish for things and believing they can happen. If you love yourself, you will find more beauty in everything around you. The trees will seem greener, the flowers will seem brighter, the birds will sound happier. (Hmmm, maybe this is how people on drugs feel. lol!)
Is this being selfish? Absolutely YES! But if everyone was doing it, this would be such a magical world! For those of you who meditate or do yoga or take long baths…kudos to you! You know that by healing yourself with happiness and love you can, not only survive in this bizarre world, but you will thrive. You will start enjoying life and living as you did when you were a child. Find that happy place again. You won’t regret it.
DEDICATION: For those of you who are accustomed to my fantastically humorous ways, I wanted to let you know that I have someone, whom I love so much, and who needs added love and support for a “dis-ease” she has. I know she will survive and thrive because she is a happy, loving, beautiful person, and she is making her own reality using love and positive focus. Most importantly, she knows she is not alone and will never be alone.
P.S. To my beautiful Sarmie, love conquers all. You are beautiful, you are loving, you are…above all…greatly LOVED! NEVER EVER FORGET IT!